Marriage is a sacred bond built on trust, love and commitment. Sometimes, however, things do not go as expected, and marriages break down for several reasons.
There are instances where the union becomes unsustainable because the differences between the partners are too wide or there has been some sort of betrayal, among other reasons. In these instances, couples may consider divorce.
While it is important to exhaust all efforts in reconciliation and, if possible, seek and rely on professionals who can assess your issues and provide help, there are valid reasons that may warrant a divorce.
Growing in different directions
As time passes, people change and evolve. Sometimes, spouses find themselves at a crossroads where their values and goals no longer align.
When attempts to compromise fail repeatedly or when communication is no longer possible between the parties because their values and goals are too far apart, divorce may be a viable option for both parties that allows them to pursue happiness independently.
Infidelity
In most marriages, the parties promise to be monogamous and not to go outside the marriage for love and companionship. However, as time passes, a partner may fall in love with someone else or be tempted to seek love and companionship outside the marriage.
The act of cheating entails betrayal on multiple levels. It causes deep wounds that are difficult, if not impossible, to heal. In these cases, divorce can allow the parties to begin again and heal their emotional wounds.
Addiction or substance abuse
Addiction can strain even the strongest of relationships. It affects the individual struggling with the addiction and everyone around them, which can destroy a marriage and family.
Divorce may be necessary to preserve everyone’s well-being and safety when repeated attempts at rehabilitation fail or when addiction leads to a toxic and abusive environment.
Marriage is a sacred bond. When two people marry, they often do so with the best intentions and under the assumption that they will be together forever. Sometimes, however, some marriages end early due to unforeseen circumstances. It is important to remember that there is no shame in living your truth and that being broken in your home is no better than coming from a broken home.