As a divorced parent, you may worry that your ex-spouse has the upper hand in custody arrangements because you have a more demanding career. However, a busy career does not mean you have to give up time with your children. With some adjustments to your time and scheduling, you may create more time you can spend with your offspring.
It is easy to get caught up in the hectic nature of your job, but it can be a great benefit if you plan your time carefully. You may not only make more time for your children, but you may even win more favorable terms from a judge in your custody arrangement. Forbes explains how busy divorced parents can better plan quality time for their children.
Determine how much time you can spare
Be honest with yourself about how much time you can spend with your children. You do not want to overestimate the amount of work and family time you can fit in a day. If you know you have to work late nights or take a trip out of town, do not commit to family time during those periods. Your children should look forward to time with you and not experience a letdown when you cannot make the time that you had promised.
Schedule your family time in advance
Many workplaces are understanding when it comes to their employees needing family time. If you let your manager or superior know that you need to leave work early on a certain day or that you want to reschedule a work day, you may be more successful than if you try to take off work without warning. You should also feel free to mention you want time for your children, as your colleagues or superiors might understand since they may have their own children.
Take proactive steps
Consider proactive steps to help take care of your children even if you are not available due to work obligations. You may work out a plan for a relative or caretaker to bring your children home from school. Once you come home from work, you can resume taking care of your children. Courts take into this consideration when determining custody, so you may make a better case for yourself by seeking financial independence and accommodating the needs of your children in the process.